Time for (Virtual) Tea: Who's the Imposter?
Do you ever feel like any day now, you could be found out? Like maybe you don't really know what you're doing, you've been faking your way all along, and any time now someone out there is going to call you on it. This, my friends, is what is known as Imposter Syndrome. To be honest, I hadn't heard of it until recently, when I enrolled in a Mediumship program to work on growing and expanding my abilities. The teacher, Amanda Meder, shared a bit about it because it is so common amongst mediums. (It's not so surprising, really, given that part of the population thinks we're phoneys and the other part likely enters readings with at least a bit of skepticism).
As soon as I began to learn what Imposter Syndrome is, I practically yelled out loud "OH MY GOOD GOLLY THAT'S ME!" (Okay... I didn't use that phrase exactly. My use of language might have been a bit too "colourful" for this blog's purpose).
Though I can't say that embracing my mediumship abilities has really brought about my first experience with Imposter Syndrome. For much of University and theatre school, I can recall worrying that they'd change their minds and decide that I wasn't as good as I let on at my entrance audition. I sat in most of my classes feeling like I was only pretending to be the student they wanted to see- and failing at that. As a blogger, it never fails that half-way through a draft, I wonder if I should even continue, everyone will know I don't really know what I'm talking about anyhow.
Where does this extremely common syndrome come from? And why are we all so afraid of "being found out."
Personally, I see it as an offshoot of perfectionism. I think it's the result of unconsciously feeling we have to have all of the answers, that we're not allowed to outwardly fall. We fear judgement. We fear we aren't enough.
So what's the antidote to suffering this silently suffocating fear? Put simply: Love.
Love yourself- ALL of yourself- whether you fall down or not. Love yourself enough to take the risk of falling down. Meaning: put yourself out there, be vulnerable, right in the face of the fear. You won't know your full capabilities without risking the fall to really try.
Love yourself for all that you DO know, all that you've succeeded at.
Love yourself enough that you stop looking to "earn" another's attention/affection/respect through performance. You deserve to be loved just as you are, not because you've jumped through hoops to get there.
Your turn: Have you experienced Imposter Syndrome? Did you know that's what it was? What do you think is the root cause of it, and how do you work past it?